“You are not my Bargain Bin Daughter” and Other Radical Things God Said to Me about Money and Shopping

From the time I was born, I’ve been a bargain shopper. Yes, like literally, I think my mom and grandma took me out bargain-hunting in a stroller. They raised me “good and frugal.” When it came to clothes shopping, deals were our best friend. If it wasn’t on sale, we didn’t buy it. Living large … Continue reading “You are not my Bargain Bin Daughter” and Other Radical Things God Said to Me about Money and Shopping

Bra Burning, Awkward Stares and Other Things that Happen When you Become a Christian Hippie

From the time I was small, my mother told me stories about the 70s. One of her favorites was about all the women who burned their bras. I got the impression she didn’t think too much of idea. Especially when many of those women put their bras back ON again in the 80s and 90s … Continue reading Bra Burning, Awkward Stares and Other Things that Happen When you Become a Christian Hippie

The Truth and the Lies of Sexual Dysfunction

“I’m sorry, young lady. You have a serious sexual dysfunction. You’re going to have to see a therapist.” I got this diagnosis when I was 25: a newly minted wife who had been a proper virgin up until a disappointing wedding night. Fresh off a confusing honeymoon, I found myself sitting in the doctor’s office … Continue reading The Truth and the Lies of Sexual Dysfunction

7 Things That Happen When You Get Emotionally Free of your Past

Sometimes, on the healing journey, it can feel impossible to believe that you will ever be free of what happened to you. You’re a goal-oriented woman, and you love to have a target to aim your arrows toward, or a finish line to run for. But when it comes to your emotions and healing from your past, … Continue reading 7 Things That Happen When You Get Emotionally Free of your Past

Breaking the Bondage of the “Good Girl” Habit for Good

“Little girls are sugar and spice and everything nice ...” From the day you were born, you were everyone’s darling. The frilly dresses. The cutesy toys. Daddy adored your dimples and Mama fussed about your hair. As you grew older, they bragged about what a “beautiful young lady” you were becoming. They applauded all your … Continue reading Breaking the Bondage of the “Good Girl” Habit for Good

Telling Your Story Is Great, But Which One are You Telling?

It takes a great deal of courage to tell your story. In my old life, before Nothing, the suitcase and cross-continental moves, I used to do a lot of coaching for women. Telling your story was something I preached and taught. And to a certain extent, I lived it. But I did not understand then … Continue reading Telling Your Story Is Great, But Which One are You Telling?

Why is Lasting Life Change is So Elusive?

You’ve been working on yourself for some time now. You go to counseling. You’re in church regularly. You’re seeking God, following all the self-discovery and self-care practices you’ve been taught, and making some radical shifts to how you “do you.” But it doesn’t really seem to stick. You know what I mean? You feel good, eat … Continue reading Why is Lasting Life Change is So Elusive?

How Everything Began with Nothing

 In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. The earth was without form and void, and darkness was over the face of the deep. Genesis 1:1 (ESV) Walking up Wisconsin Avenue in downtown Milwaukee, you wouldn’t immediately call it a great place for meditation. Especially not at 4 o’clock in the afternoon on a … Continue reading How Everything Began with Nothing

9 Ways to Love Your Body When You Don’t Really Like It

“Don’t you you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that His spirit dwells in your midst?” - 1 Corinthians 3:16 You know deep inside if you don’t love your body. It’s hard to admit aloud, perhaps, but not hard to know in your soul. You hate mirrors. You don’t want to have your … Continue reading 9 Ways to Love Your Body When You Don’t Really Like It